So exactly one week ago I decided to sign up for an online dating site. The inspiration/interest came from a blog I started following ohhellothereyou, a chick in NYC who posts about dating and the randomness that is OKCupid (the *free* dating site I signed up for). Her posts are hilarious so I wanted to see what the deal was and how the whole online dating thing works. She had a few good dates, amongst a lot a funny/random messages.
I signed up for OKCupid since its free and only filled out the basic information. There were plenty of open ended questions to answer [i.e. What am i good at (who knows??), 6 things I could never do without (chapstick, baseball, music, my computer, etc…), On a typical Friday Night I am… (asleep by 11), etc] but at that moment, I just didn’t feel like answering them.
Here are a few of the random messages I received over the week. Last week was pretty hectic for me so I ended up not responding to any of them or ever adding info to my profile…
What does that even mean?
This one actually made me smile. Sarcasm=#win.
I should have told him I was an escort. That would have left much to talk about.
So based off these results, and my own previously predetermined qualms, I have decided that dating via meeting people through online websites is just not for me. It all seems very superficial (and maybe that’s because I would look at a page and think “there is no way I would go on a date with that guy”). And yes, that response in its self is very superficial, but I am not going to sit here and lie to you or myself and say that looks aren’t important, because they are.
Also, I felt like I was online shopping for a date. I don’t even like online shopping!
I never responded to any of the messages I received nor did I go any dates. Frankly, I just couldn’t bring myself to take part in online dating more than I currently had. And as of about 10 minutes ago, my OKCupid profile is no longer.
As embarrassed as I feel like I should be for this, I’m not. I haven’t had a date in quite some time, and I wanted to see if this was a viable route. I’ve heard that people actually meet on these sites. But I’ve also heard that people meet at grocery stores (which I frequent at least once a week), coffee shops (I go more than twice a week), sporting events (I can’t even count the number of baseball games I’ve been to)…so online dating sites are just another avenue. Unfortunately, not one for me. I prefer the good ol’ organic kind of meetings (even though I’m incredibly awkward and socially inept around guys I’m into).
Regardless, I am intrigued to see real life reactions/responses to online dating.
Have ya’ll ever tried online dating? Which sites? How was the experience?
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